Getting married is easier said than done. When we fall in love and get married, we imagine how wonderful married life will be. We think it will be perfect, everything will fall into place.
We will always be happy, my husband will always adore us and I think it will always be wonderful. But in reality, marriage is difficult and can quickly turn into a nightmare if not taken care of.
But what happened to all this love?
Why is he different?
What happened to all the passion you felt in the beginning?
Why doesn’t he like spending time with you?
If your husband starts to love another woman, there are a few things to keep in mind. It is important why he fell in love and how to win back. Read from these experts and never forget to sacrifice your own happiness to win her back:
When was the last time you were happy?
Relationship therapist Robert Weiss explains some of the reasons why men cheat. Whether it’s insecurity or unrealistic expectations, “most men don’t have a single factor that makes them decide to cheat. Sometimes the reason for a man’s infidelity changes as his life circumstances change.”
One of the reasons could be his happiness in your current relationship. Men are happier and more connected to their wives when they can make their wives happy.
We are always happy at the beginning of a relationship. We celebrate and appreciate everything our man does for us. After a while, we stop being grateful, we stop crying, we stop being happy. Of course, it is unrealistic to be happy every minute of every day, but you need to make a conscious effort to have the right attitude.
Even if you are unhappy, his infidelity is not your fault. If something he does makes you unhappy, let him know so he can change for the better.
When was the last time you prioritized intimacy?
Having children and increasing responsibilities makes it difficult to keep the flame alive. This is absolutely normal. However, it’s easy to mistake intimacy for a duty, and we forget how beautiful it can be.
Relationship expert Aaron Anderson says, “Talking to your wife in such a vulnerable, intimate way creates a unique bond that you can’t have with anyone else.” Honestly, without intimacy, your marriage will just be living together like friends or roommates.
But we forget that men and women have needs beyond intimacy. Often women need to be reassured and praised, but so does your husband. It’s easy for her to think how much you care about her, but if you never remind her that you love her, she might get confused.
It’s not your fault if your man falls in love with another woman. Marriage takes a lot of work, and it’s up to both of you to make it work.
He has the same obligations as you. He should make you happy and make life fun instead of miserable. Remember why you are together, what brought you together, why you love each other. Make your relationship a priority and try to make it the best it can be.
Mariel Reimann, FamilyShare
Mariel Reimann is the Director of Content at KSL Latino. He studied law at the National University of Cordoba and currently lives in Salt Lake City, Utah.